Kevin Feige has confirmed that the ‘Captain Marvel’ trailer is still “several months away” and also said that the ‘Avengers 4′ title won’t be revealed until after that “towards the end of the year”!
A/N: It’s been a while! This is my offering to @madmadmilk‘s 5K celebration (you can find the masterlist here, there are so many good fics here by some great writers and you should definitely check it out!), based on the prompt “would it kill you to put a shirt on”.
Warnings: Language, drinking
Words: 7K (I’m so sorry if the read more doesn’t work)
Summary: When your ex-roommate Tom suggested a party for old time’s sake you had your hesitations, and now you’re left with a trashed house and no memory of what went on last night. Tom’s strange behavior suggests that you’ve forgotten something big, but he’s not telling; what exactly did you do?
This isn’t your bed.
This isn’t a bed at all.
Your eyes snap open as the realisation hits you, hands
gripping the sides of the sun lounger that you appear to have spent the night
on. Not only are you not in a bed, you’re not even in a bedroom; you’re outside.
Disorientated, you
raise your pounding head to get a better look. Your first thought is a
reassuring one – at least you know where you are. The garden you’ve awoken in
belongs to your godmother, a wealthy woman who you’ve been housesitting for
this past week. This is the first time she’s decided to trust you with the
responsibility, and looking around, you realise that it might well be the last.
The lawn is littered with plastic cups, interspersed with
the occasional beer bottle glinting in the sunlight. Someone’s t-shirt is
strewn across a rose bush, and a lone flip flop floats idly across the vast
swimming pool. You’re in a similarly unkempt state yourself, still in last
night’s clothes with the taste of stale alcohol on your breath. There’s a fuzzy
blackspot where your memories should be, but the evidence speaks for itself. There
was a party here last night, and you know exactly who’s idea it was.
T'challa, a weary sibling, testing new gear: is this a prank
Shuri, ignoring the 42 hidden 360° cameras, 26 hidden audio recorders, her YouTube livestream, her Instagram livestream, the camera she hid in his shirt for a first person pov, Peter Parker on the ceiling, the camera in her hair, Nakia behind the door, and all the Dora Milaje staring through the window: no
T'challa, a weary sibling, testing new gear: is this a prank
Shuri, ignoring the 42 hidden 360° cameras, 26 hidden audio recorders, her YouTube livestream, her Instagram livestream, the camera she hid in his shirt for a first person pov, Peter Parker on the ceiling, the camera in her hair, Nakia behind the door, and all the Dora Milaje staring through the window: no
If you want to be friends with me you don’t have to be “Hi, um, can, ya know, we be friends?”
It is 1000000000000000000000% percent ok if you just go into my inbox can go. “Man, I am so fucking pissed off at fucking Michael.” And I’ll most likely respond with, “Oh shit! What did Michael do now?“
this is such a good post because asking ppl if you can be friends can make them feel so uncomfortable but if you approach them like this its SO EASY to start a conversation and let a friendship develop naturally
hey yes anyone just hit me up anytime I will gossip and give advice and be totally supportive and non judgmental just sayin
He’s terrified of Rocket simply because Rocket is insistent on needing his arm
When he gets drunk with Thor for the first time is also the first time he tells you he loves you
He completely opens up to you about his feelings about his rehab
He feels fucking horrible because he can’t remember anything Steve talks about but he’s trying so hard and Bucky feels so bad about not remembering
You tell him that things will never be the same, and he needs to figure out who he is without anyone’s help
Which is part of the reason why he goes to Wakanda
When he comes out you’re there and you end up on your knees hugging each other for an hour
Not speaking, just holding each other because it’s been a year and fuck he missed you
You are completely submissive to him most times, he has this underlying power and authority about him that renders you putty in his hands.
However, you can’t help but be a bad bitch when you need to.
When you’re sparring, you’re pulling out all of your tricks (powers, assassin moves etc) to render him speechless
Lots of women work for the Male Gaze, but you work for the James Gaze
You don’t call him James, ever
It’s always Buck, or Love, or Sweets
But when you do call him James, it’s in the most intimate moments— when you’re comforting him after a nightmare, or when he’s crying or when you’re making slow and soft love.
He loves your ass, whether it’s in tight pants, his sweats, under his hand when Y'all are cuddling, or up in the air for him and him alone
He claims its soft, and there are very few things in this world that are soft anymore
But you know its because he’s secretly always going to be a teenage boy
Even if he is like, 100 years old
You love calling him old man, or elder Barnes because it makes his jaw do the Thing and it makes him lips pull up only slightly
So slightly that only you and Steve notice
he rarely gives you a full smile on your face, but he smiles at you a lot
He smiles at you when you fall asleep on your books or briefings
He smiles at you when you’re putting away your laundry in one of his dirty shirts “because it smells like him”
He smiles when you talk in your sleep because it’s usually “love you, bitch” or lines of the Disney movie you showed him earlier that day
He often sweeps you off the couch in his living room to dance to Disney songs because they comfort him and the closeness to him comforts you
And nat and Steve and Sam have all walked in on him teaching you how to quickstep to The Princess and the Frog ST
He also really loves “fly me to the moon”- it’s his favorite song and he swears he’s going to dance with you to the song on Yalls wedding day
Babies cry around him
But animals and elementary school kids? Can’t get enough of him.
The animals are drawn to his energy
And kids like to touch his metal arm and if they’re lucky, they’ll be able to climb on him and swing from it
So he’s on the fence about having kids, but he brings home new animals all the time
The only one that Y'all haven’t found a home for is a St Bernard named Rocky because Bucky always takes down all the advertisements you put up
You love the dog
But Bucky LOVES the dog
You refrain from your love of scary movies for him because despite Shuri’s help in Wakanda he’s still Afraid
So that’s actually when you introduced Disney and Pixar to him
The fuckin softy amirite ladies
You guys act like the other is the sun and you’re a sunflower
Like you’re always turned towards each other or hovering over the other
You’re undyingly protective of each other
I’m talking you often abandon your original mission to protect the other when invading a hydra space
He’s terrified of hurting you w his metal arm
But the first time you ride his metal hand after a hard workout he starts to notice how it gets you going
When he flexes his hand out of habit and his arm whirrs softly he realizes that your stare isn’t one of fear or disgust but one of amazement
He fucking loves when you go down on him
He loves the spit and the moans and the hums and he loves when he feels your nose press against his stomach and you swallow around him
He loves the taste of himself on your mouth
He loves when you ride his thigh
Because you do it often
He’ll be sitting against the headboard and reading some sort of self help book (he loves grace helbig and Connor franta’s books)
And he’ll be wearing loose shorts, and the muscle and hair on his thicc thighs will make you moan outlaid the second you see him
And soon enough you’re making out and you’re cumming all over his thigh
He’s hella fucking submissive in bed simply because he’s afraid he’ll hurt you, but also because in the 40’s he was always putting in the most effort and it’s nice to not have to worry about everything
So you often ride him into the sunset
And he leaves small clusters of hickeys on your tits because finally he actually own something and that something is you
You love his hair more than anything in this world
When he ties his hair in a messy bun to eat you lose your mind
And ever since you watched the second How To Train Your Dragon, HES been asking you to do little braids in his hair
And it’s just become a habit
You’ll be in the living room watching a movie and he’ll be resting his head in your lap and soon his head is full of braids
He always always always leaves at least one in for the whole day
He doesn’t like music, but he loves podcasts because he learns more and more about how modern society works
You recommend “Pod Save America” and “Small Doses”, but his favorite is true crime podcasts and BuzzFeed unsolved
when they do an episode on the Ghost (winter soldier), he’s actually fascinated because the media hates him but Shane and Ryan are actually fascinated with him and how he worked.
He cries laughing when they finally decide that the Ghost is an old Chinese grandmother
You and Shuri are really close not only because you are Bucky’s two favorite girls, but because you are both so fascinated by him.
You actually have a book of drawings of Bucky and his arm that you and Shuri share
You like to speak to her, Wanda and peter in vine references and can actually have a full conversation without any of the other Avengers understanding you
You help Shuri take out her braids when she needs help and you do so while she’s in Tony’s lab working on new designs for the Avengers
Tony is pissed at the mess you’re both making
But he’s never seen Bucky smile so much (it’s because of how close you and Shuri are getting)
You bring her to Sephora and when you come back after stealing Tony’s business card you corner bucky and T’challa and do their makeup
Bucky decides he likes having his eyebrows gelled and he decides he likes brown mascara
T’Challa likes a little bit of Rihanna’s Fenty highlight “trophy wife” on the top of his nose
She accidentally calls you mom and dad on the reg and eventually you don’t think it’s by accident
You love this teddy bear of a man and he loves you and you’re so fucking amazed at each other.
Everyone has personal needs, whether it’s going to the gym after work or taking some alone time on Saturday morning. If someone asks you to do something and your instinct is to honor you own need, do that. I’m not saying you can’t make sacrifices sometimes, but it’s important to make a habit of taking care of yourself.
Someone once told me people are like glasses of water. If we don’t do what we have to do to keep our glass full, we’ll need to take it from someone else—which leaves them half full. Fill your own glass so you can feel whole and complete in your relationships.
2. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
It’s tempting to doubt people—to assume your boyfriend meant to hurt you by not inviting you out with his friends, or your friend meant to make you feel inadequate by flaunting her money. People who care about you want you to feel happy, even if sometimes they get too wrapped up in their own problems to show it well.
Sometimes they may be hurtful and mean it—let’s not pretend we’re all angels. But that won’t be the norm. It will likely be when they’re hurting and don’t know what to do with it. Odds are they’ll feel bad and apologize later. If you want to get good will, share it by seeing the best in the people you love. When we assume the best, we often inspire it.
3. Look at yourself for the problem first.
When you feel unhappy with yourself, it’s easy to find something wrong in a relationship. If you blame another person for what you’re feeling, the solution is on them. But this is actually faulty logic. For starters, it gives them all the control. And secondly, it usually doesn’t solve the problem, since you didn’t actually address the root cause.
Next time you feel the need to blame someone for your feelings—something they did or should have done—ask yourself if there’s something else going on. You may find there’s something underlying: something you did or should have done for you. Take responsibility for the problem and you have power to create a solution.
4. Be mindful of projecting.
In psychology, projecting refers to denying your own traits and then ascribing them to the outside world or other people. For example, if you’re not a loyal and trusting friend, you may assume your friends are all out to get you. It’s a defense mechanism that allows you to avoid the discomfort of acknowledging your weaknesses. There’s no faster way to put a rift in your relationships.
This comes back to down to self awareness, and it’s hard work. Acknowledging your flaws isn’t fun, but if you don’t, you’ll continue seeing them in everyone around you. And you’ll continue to hurt. Next time you see something negative in someone else, ask yourself if it’s true for you. It might not be, but if it is, identifying it can help create peace in that relationship.
5. Choose your battles.
Everyone knows someone who makes everything a fight. If you question them about something, you can expect an argument. If you comment on something they did, you’ll probably get yelled at. Even a compliment could create a confrontation. Some people just like to fight—maybe to channel negativity they’re carrying around about the world or themselves.
On the one hand, you have to tell people when there’s something bothering you. That’s the only way to address problems. On the other hand, you don’t have to let everything bother you. When I’m not sure if I need to bring something up, I ask myself these few questions:
Does this happen often and leave me feeling bad? Does this really matter in the grand scheme of things? Can I empathize with their feelings instead of dwelling on my insecurity?
6. Confront compassionately and clearly.
When you attack someone, their natural instinct is to get defensive, which gets you nowhere. You end up having a loud conversation where two people do their best to prove they’re right and the other one is wrong. It’s rarely that black and white. It’s more likely you both have points, but you’re both too stubborn to meet in the middle.
If you approach someone with compassion, you will open their hearts and minds. Show them you understand where they’re coming from, and they’ll be willing to see your side. That gives you a chance to express yourself and your expectations clearly. And when you let people know what you need at the right time in the right way, they’re more likely to give that to you.
7. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.
There are all kinds of ways you can feel vulnerable in relationships: When you express your feelings for someone else. When you’re honest about yourself or your past. When you admit you made a mistake. We don’t always do these things because we want to maintain a sense of power.
Power allows us a superficial sense of control, whereas true, vulnerable being allows us a sense of authenticity. That’s love: being your true self and allowing someone else to do the same without letting fear and judgment tear it down. It’s like Jimi Hendrix said, “When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.”
8. Think before acting on emotion.
This one is the hardest for me. As soon as I feel hurt, frustrated, or angry, I want to do something with it—which is always a bad idea. I’ve realized my initial emotional reaction does not always reflect how I really feel about something. Initially, I might feel scared or angry, but once I calm down and think things through, I often realize I overreacted.
When you feel a strong emotion, try to sit it for a while. Don’t use it or run from it—just feel it. When you learn to observe your feelings before acting on them, you minimize the negativity you create in two ways: you process, analyze, and deal with feelings before putting them on someone else; and you communicate in a way that inspires them to stay open instead of shutting down.
9. Maintain boundaries.
When people get close, boundaries can get fuzzy. In a relationship without boundaries, you let the other person manipulate you into doing things you don’t want to do. You act out of guilt instead of honoring your needs. You let someone offend you without telling them how you feel about it. The best way to ensure people treat you how you want to be treated is to teach them.
That means you have to love and respect yourself enough to do that: to acknowledge what you need, and speak up. The only way to truly have loving, peaceful relationships is to start with a loving, peaceful relationship with yourself.
10. Enjoy their company more than their approval.
When you desperately need someone’s approval, your relationship becomes all about what they do for you—how often they stroke your ego, how well they bring you up when you feel down, how well they mitigate your negative feelings. This is draining for another person, and it creates an unbalanced relationship.
If you notice yourself dwelling on pleasing someone else or getting their approval, realize you’re creating that need. (Unless you’re in an abusive relationship, in which case I highly recommend getting help.) Instead of focusing on what you can get from that person, focus on enjoying yourselves together. Oftentimes the best thing you can do for yourself and someone else is let go and give yourself permission to smile.
